ChristianBlog.Com About Membership Signin Join Today
In these unpleasant times, we must continue to watch and pray
Kirk m+ published this sponsored blog
Mining the depths of the conversation - Jesus and the rich young ruler

Author:   
Choose Your Words Wisely--You Can't Take Them Back





 
"He who has knowledge spares his words, and a man of understanding is of a calm spirit.

Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive."

Proverbs 17:27, 28

"Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles."

Proverbs 21:23

"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness."

Proverbs 15:1, 2

"The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious, but the lips of a fool shall swallow him up;

The words of his mouth begin with foolishness, and the end of his talk is raving madness.

A fool also multiplies words, no man knows what is to be; who can tell him what will be after him?"

Ecclesiastes 10:12-14

"But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God.

Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so."

James 3:8-10

"Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit.

Brood of vipers! How can you, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.

A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things.

But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."

Matthew 12:33-37

Needless to say, what we choose to come out of our mouth is extremely important. Nothing causes us more problems in this life than the words we say, which once they were spoken either caused harm or painted us a fool. People make fun of the mistakes made when speaking by saying they "stuck their foot in their mouth", but the damage done by words is usually better equated with daggers and swords than feet of animals.

A wise person is a person who THINKS before engaging mouth. A wise person knows that silence at times is truly golden. Those who must hear themselves talk to feel good about themselves are fools according to the Bible. Many there are in this world who spend most of their life talking and little of their life ever listening.

Once a word is spoken it cannot be taken back. That is why it is so very important to make sure what comes out of the mouth truly reflects what is in the heart. Of course the exception to this is "inspired utterance" which is given by the Holy Spirit which demands no forethought. But, that is a subject for another time. Outside of inspired utterance, we all need to be more careful in what we say and how we say it. It is almost always a prescription for disaster to allow the mouth to speak when in a fit of rage. Most things said that we want so dearly to take back were spoken when the mind was angry or upset.

Have we not all fired off a letter or e-mail to someone who made us mad or hurt our feelings saying all sorts of noble sounding things but the tone of the communication was full of venom? Far better it is to go ahead and write such things, but DO NOT SEND IT for 24 hours. Wait a day and read what you wrote and see if that is still how you feel. If it is, then send it; if not then re-write it. This is wisdom and this is how to keep the tongue under control.

It is very difficult to keep the tongue under control, but it is one of those things in life which is vital to do if we truly want our lives to be a blessing to others. I don't know about you, but some of the people I like least to be around are those whom I deem "walking volcanoes". Those who could erupt at any moment with billows of fire and smoke are not the kinds of people you want to say anything to lest it set off the volcano.

I don't want to be classified as a "loose cannon" which describes many who shoot words out of their mouth like a machine gun. Funny, these same people make snap decisions without any forethought also. I am fully aware that great leaders are willing and able to make decisions on the spur of the moment, but great leaders also place great emphasis on the input of others and carefully consider all options before making the toughest decisions.

In our word centered society it is often hard to get a word in edgewise or any other wise. We are bombarded with words from every direction at all hours of the day. Not only must we choose wisely what we SAY, but what we LISTEN to, READ or WATCH. The words we allow into our minds and ponder in our hearts turn into the very things we end up believing and staking our lives on. Thus, we must be very careful what we honestly consider/ponder just as we must be very careful what we say.

Words do reflect, portray and announce what we feel and believe. To be a good tree producing good fruit we must carefully decide which words to let into our heart and we then must be careful to allow only those words which reflect our heart to come forth out of our mouth. There is perhaps nothing more sad in this life than watching someone lose it all because of what they said without thinking. Although specifically directed at another part of this discussion; I will close with a phrase that is applicable to any and all aspects of communication: "Loose lips sink ships".

Creative Commons: Attribution

Posted: May 29 2008 05:53:56am by Kirk m+
Total Views: 23065
ShortURL: http://christianblog.com/070e
Print This Blog
Share Via Email  Share On Facebook.Com  Share On Digg.Com  Post To Evernote  Share On StumbleUpon.Com  Share On Reddit.Com 
About kirk:

Kirk m is a retired minister living with his wife and animals in rural eastern Missouri You can find out more about kirk at his profile page.

Samantha Shemer (@youaregolden)
May 29 2008 06:46:48am
  Too many times I have "fired my cannons" WAYYY to early. And I reaped the consequences. YOu aare so true brother, we must be so slow to speak, and really think things through. Bring our feelings to the Word of God and see if we are acting Christ like with them. Great Blog YSIC, -Golden


Lynette Duquette (@lyn71)
May 29 2008 07:01:30am
  All I can say is AMEN!


Hoyle Dabbs+ (@tchable)
May 29 2008 10:51:30am
  Wise words from a wise man. Thank you brother for sharing your wisdom with all.

Blessings from NC
TchAble


Marsha Tyler Ronquist (@kraftykatz)
May 29 2008 11:13:39am
  Amen B2Y! Words of wisdom from the Book of wisdom. Words can hurt, words can encourage. Use words wisely becasue once leaving your mouth they can not be taken back. KraftyKatz drinking tea


Sandy Brooks+ (@poodlelady)
May 29 2008 01:57:01pm
  Whoever said "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" was never wounded by words.
A beating is far easier to take than the wounds left by harsh carlessly spoken words.
Great Blog Brother -thanks


Linda young (@savedbyegrace)
May 29 2008 07:51:03pm
  Yup. Too many times I have been so ashamed of what I said and wished, wished I could take it back. Too many times I have hurt someone with my words. Great post, thanks! Gracie


Erin cochran (@throughfaith)
May 30 2008 08:05:18pm
  Funny you should mention email ... that's my downfall that I've had to learn to do exactly what you advise and wait before hitting that send button. However, face to face I rarely say anything at all. My dad always said "better to be thought a fool then to open your mouth and remove any doubt". Thanks for the reminder!


Ghing guevarra (@raizza)
Sep 23 2009 11:33:07am
  thanks for this blog blessings2you :) there had been a lot of times that i wished i could take back the words I've said! oh my.. a great blog, indeed! may the Lord grant us His grace to think first before speaking and to consider the feelings of other people before we speak.. may the words that come out from our mouths be pleasing in GOD's sight, encouraging to other people and sometimes... like in this blog.. a rebuke out of love.. :)



Add Your Comment:
Visitor/Guest Commenting:
We would love to have you join our website if you plan to comment within our website. If for some reason you do not want to join you can post your comment as a non-member. All comments will be held in queue and reviewed before being published/displayed.

First Name:   required

Last/Surname:   required

Email:   required

Country:   required


Add Your Comment: 
No html, website links, emails, etc.      Max characters: 1000
note: your blog comment will have to be approved by the blog author before it is made public

Policy Agreements: 





Math Verification:  + =  required

Add Your Comment: 
-
Copyright © 2014 ChristianBlog.Com Policies  -  Help/FAQ  -  Contact Us  -  Membership  -  News & Announcements