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Amazing! It is amazing to me that a man wrote so well about this topic. Trust me, I'm not being sarcastic in the least. This really describes things pretty well actually.
Chemo was supposed to push me into menopause at least temporarily. At least, it usually does and at 47 (when I had it) they were sure that it would definitely hit me. Well, things don't always go exactly the way their supposed to and well, let's just say parts of me weren't as "old" as they thought and I'm in limbo right now.
How does my poor husband deal with it? Chocolate. The good stuff works best. He periodically makes runs to a chocolatier near his place of employment and picks up half a dozen truffles. You know, the ones that come in their own little container, have the percentage of pure chocolate on the label and have to stay in the fridge. You just can't possible overindulge in these because one single little truffle completely satisfies any sort of craving you may have for anything sweet for at least 24 hours. This is why I can still indulge in one of these even as a diabetic. A little goes a long, long way.
My husband learned (and this part is true) that if he is very careful, he can actually insert one of these into my mouth even as my hormones are in full swing. The effect is instantaneous. Actually, just showing them to me will cause me to pause but he finds the latter much more dramatic and fun to watch. I instantly turn as sweet as the chocolate I'm savoring. He has stopped me cold in the middle of a tirade and considers chocolate to be sent from heaven for this very purpose. 
Now, I can't guarantee this will work for every women but I have to tell you that whenever I share this story with women, they look at their husbands and say the words all men dread. "Why don't you do that for me?"
K 
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Posted 01/21/2009 05:28am
Author: kreynolds
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Thank you "k" for the info on chocolate and for daring to place a comment on a blog dealing with one of those subjects "you just don't talk about", but foolish me, I did. It is not easy talking about many things that medically go wrong in our bodies, but if and when they do, we must be able to be honest about them, even if they are as simple as hormones.
Thanks,
B2Y
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Posted 01/21/2009 06:06am
Author: blessings2you
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I agree with K, kudos to you, BROTHER for writing on this woman's topic.
You need to know that we know the truth. We dislike the truth. We are powerless to stop these terrible things from happening to us. It is not mind over matter, so to speak.
I was surgically thrown into instant menopause. One symptom you did not mention was insomnia. Hot flashes and mood swings, add to it lack of sleep. On a good day, I would get 4 hours of sleep.
Trooper that I am, decided to do the all natural vitamin/homeopathic road to alleviate symptoms. After one year I called my doctor and begged for good, old-fashioned manmade HRT -- drugs. He kinda grinned when he asked me how that all--natural route was workin' for me.
And I have reached that place of "even better than before" now that my hormones do not fluctuate anymore. I ingest the same amount every day. It's quite a lovely place to be.
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Posted 01/21/2009 08:12am
Author: savedbyegrace
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Lol ... the post is great, and the comments are score! Just like gracie, I got my "change" all at once, surgically, at the age of 45, I think. Loss of memory is another blissful symptom ... did anyone mention that? And periods of questionable sanity. Yeh. It's a glorious time to be a woman. 
Thanks, B2Y, for the courage it must have taken to write this. You were pretty much risking life and limb, you know. 
Blessings, Mona
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Posted 01/21/2009 02:16pm
Author: ilovehimso
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You did do a great job on this B2Y.
I too had trouble in 7th grade, but was the opposite of your wife. I pulled off into a shell and ended up seeing a counselor. A bad year for me!!
I went into and out of menopause from age 36 up to when the finished at age 52 without chemo! Pre-menopausal the Dr called it. Each episode lasted about 6 months then things returned to normal.
When it started full time I tired to survive without the HRT also, but was driving everyone crazy.
Thanks for sharing everyone.
KraftyKatz
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Posted 01/21/2009 06:06pm
Author: kraftykatz
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I wrote this at 2:30 in the morning and then didn't want to submit it. Even after I did, I wanted to delete it because I felt so silly writing about a this subject. But, I know that I didn't get up in the middle of the night to write it for me.
Thank you for allowing me to share on this subject not too many men would ever want to get involved with. Thank you for understanding, sort of, why I might be inclined to write this, being for the benefit of those yet to experience the subject. May we all manifest the patience, wisdom and love needed to see past what appears on the outside and in turn see the heart in all of us.
Thank you for all your comments and not making me feel like a fool for writing this.
Blessings 2 You
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Posted 01/21/2009 06:06pm
Author: blessings2you
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Log Into Chatroom 
Having had a partial hysterctomy (an ovary was glued somewhere it shouldn't have been so it stayed there) I was very disappointed to find that I still had to go through the rigmarole of the hormonal changes. To the best of my recollection mood swings weren't really a problem but as for the rest... 
Our daughters have learned that if they don't want to part with their yummy food that it is best not to offer some to their father. Their mother on the other hand would always say "No thank you, you keep it for yourself.
Mind you, kiwigirl now has a sweatshirt proudly displaying the label "Step away from the chocolate and no-one gets hurt"! As regards alight's mention of trout and bass I have to say in defense of women that some sleeping men have sharp elbows and I can personally testify to this. Be brave alight, I think the covers being thrown off occasionally is infinitely better than having your beloved poke you in the eye with their elbow! 
