At church we are going through a study about how to deal with conflict, God's way by Ken Sande who wrote the book, "The Peacemaker". This study is awesome, I have never understood conflict and of course never had any training on how to handle it from a Biblical standpoint.
I always thought conflict was a bad thing, but have now learned that conflict is simply when two or more people have a difference of opinion.This difference of opinion can be: a different way to believe in something; a different opinion of who should do certain tasks around the house; a different opinion of where to go out and eat; a different opinion of how to discipline the kids; a different opinion of where to spend the family vacation; a different opinion of how to fulfill the leadership positions at church and the list goes on and on.
We deal with conflict so much in our everyday lives: in our marriages; with our kids; our co-workers; our family members; our bosses, our brothers and sisters in Christ; etc. With everyone being created differently, it is obvious that we are going to have different opinions and viewpoints that are inevitably going to spark conflict in our daily lives, which makes learning to deal with conflict properly so very important and the Bible has much to say on this subject.
What I have learned so far in this study is that there are three ways to respond to conflict when it arises in our lives: 1) Escape Responses
2) Attacking Responses
3) Peacemaking Responses.
My mom was one to escape from conflict and my dad was one who attacked when conflict arose, so in my life I see that I have been quick to attack if I think I can win or I escape if I think I can not. So my responses have either been to escape or attack and I am now learning to approach conflict from a Biblical standpoint and promote peace through the conflict.
I still have a lot to learn in this study, but one thing I have learned so far to do when I am faced with conflict is to step back for a moment and ask myself:"How can I Glorify, Honor and Please God in this situation?" This may mean that I excuse myself without a response at first and ask the other person if I can have a little time to think about or pray about my reaction and seek the Lord to show me how to respond in a way that will promote peace.
In 1 Cor. 10:31 Paul told the church at Corinth to "Live to the Glory of God in what ever they did", he meant on a daily basis, not just on Sunday and Wednesday.
I am excited to learn more from this study, may the Lord change me and mold me into a peacemaker that Glorifies Him in all I do.
How dare you get together with my Lord and beat me over the head with this concept...LOL! I get it.
Someone gave me this book to help with a situation in my life. Guess I have to read it now.