Once we become a saved child of God, we have two kinds of relationships with God. We have a born relationship and a chosen friendship. Just like with your earthly parents, you have a born relationship that you have no control over. You were born of your mom and dad and you can't change that. Although, now you have to choose on a daily basis whether or not you want to have a close friendship with them or ignore them and have nothing to do with them except during the holidays.
I would like to make a little note here, when you are born, it is an instant relationship with your parents. One day you are not born and the next day you are and you have an instant relationship. With God, one day we are not saved and the next day we are, then we start to work on the second type of relationship, the friendship or fellowship one.
Our relationship to God through Jesus is the same way. John 3:3 Jesus answered and said to him, Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.¬ So once we get saved or are born again, then we have a born relationship¬ with God our Father through His Son the Lord Jesus Christ. John 1:12-14 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.
Once you are born of God nothing and no one can change that as you will see in these scriptures. Romans 8:37-39 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. John 10:27-29 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father's hand.
From these verses we see that once we are born of God, there is nothing and no one that can separate us from Christ, because He puts us In God's hand and no one can take us out of His hand. Makes me think of that song, He's got the whole world in His hands¬, I wish He did, but sadly Jesus said wide is the gate to destruction and many go through it and narrow is the gate to life and only a few go through it. (Matt. 7:13-14)
We can see now that we have a born relationship with God once we are saved that is unchanging, although we also have to choose to have a friendship or fellowship relationship with the Lord. 1 John 1:5-10 This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.
This is what Paul meant by "work out your salvation", in Phil. 2:12, he meant we must work on our fellowship relationship with the Lord so we can stay close to Him and follow Him.
We have to choose to maintain a close fellowship with the Lord and that will take some work on our part. We will need to pray, spend time with him and keep un-confessed sin out of our life, which means we agree with God that it is sin when the Holy Spirit convicts us and we turn from it and ask forgiveness. If we do not follow the principles for maintaining a close relationship with Jesus, then it will break our fellowship with Him and pretty soon we won't feel His presence in our life, although, even if we break fellowship with Him, we still can not do anything to affect our born of God relationship that we have and that is very important to remember.
If you and your dad got into a disagreement and you moved away from him and did not talk to him for 5 years, then we would say your friendship or fellowship has been broken. Now let's say you die in a sudden car accident and did not get the chance to rekindle that fellowship with your dad, he is still your dad. When you and him had the disagreement and moved away from him, you did not change the born relationship you had with him. It is this way with us and God as well, if we are truly saved and get out of fellowship with the Lord and something happens to us He is still our Father.
I would not want to die at a point where I was not in a close relationship with the Lord, but I do believe scripture teaches that once we are a child of God, that nothing can separate us from the Love of God which is in Christ Jesus.
In Matt. 7:21-23 when Jesus says, Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord,' shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?' 23 And then I will declare to them, I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!'
He is clearly talking about people who were never saved, but thought they were, because He said He would say to them, I NEVER knew you and if they were ever saved at one point, then He would not be able to say that to them.
I believe once you are actually saved, then you can break your friendship relationship with the Lord, but can do nothing to affect your Born again relationship with the Lord.
The only gospel I see in the Bible is repent of sin, believe that Jesus is God's Son thru grace by faith and call upon the Lord and you shall be saved. And remember what Paul said in Galatians 1:8-But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed.
*****Author's note - 5-20-2010
I have always been a very strong believer in the security of the believer's salvation and that was the case when I wrote this blog...however, in the last couple months I have searched the scriptures and God has convicted me that the security of the believer is dependant upon our willingmess to continue following Him daily and continuing to abide in Jesus daily and continuing to repent when convicted and not quenching the Spirt to continue in sin.
2 Peter chapter 2 shows me that a person who once was saved can choose to give up their salvation by turning from following Jesus and getting entangled again and overcome by sin.
Please check out my series on "The Security of the Believer" in my archives.
May God continue to open our understanding to the scriptures.
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