Making judgments without being judgmental is not a hard thing to do because the Bible, if we go by what it says makes it easy for us to make a judgment call. What I am finding quite difficult right now in my own experience though, is that sometimes because people know that I go to church and am serious about going by what the Bible says, that they seem to pull away, maybe not even like me for it, or think I'm giving them judgmental glances or judging them when I am not. I take a stand against sin and I know the difference between wrong and right because the Bible tells me the difference between the two. This doesn't mean I'm always looking down on others who may not think the same way I have a love for others as the Bible tells me to but it's kind of painful when you want someone to know you care, aren't looking down on them and want them to be themselves around you but they walk on eggshells around you because they know you stand upon the Word of God and have a strong moral center. I know what it is like to be judged, I've been there before and the Bible talks about not judging others which we will go over those verses but I guess the best thing to do is leave it in God's hands and pray that he somehow lets others know that we don't mean any ill will towards them just because we walk the Christian life. It's kind of a catch-22 for me because in a way it is good if people have that kind of respect for you and your faith that they are careful in how they act but for someone to pull away so much when you want to let them know you care about them and don't look down on them is kind of painful. Matthew Chapter 7:1-5 says Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. ¬Å Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ¬Å Let me take the speck out of your eye, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. There was a time when I was bad about this, I would pay attention to things other people did wrong and that they needed to change but didn't focus on the plank in my own eye, or the things that I struggled with that I needed to ask God to help me with. No one on this earth is perfect and we need to keep that in mind but we can't disregard what the Bible says just because someone feels uncomfortable around us. I want more than anything for people to feel comfortable around me and not think I'm judging them, because I'm not, I don't have any reason to be the judge of anyone, that is God's job not mine. We need to love our brother and sister and support them as much as we possibly can in any way we can and be welcoming and have encouraging spirits and not be discouragers. I just keep thinking about this and don't know if I'm being too hard on myself or if there's something I'm doing that needs changed so that people don't think they have to walk on eggshells around me. I know I'm not going to compromise what I believe either, I will go by what the Bible says as much as I possibly can but I'm not going to throw it out the window just because I think someone thinks I don't like them. But that's the part that bothers me: I don't dislike anyone, I actually love others now more than I ever have I guess that's why I'm struggling with it. Of course I've never wanted anyone not to like me, and I used to complain because I thought that people didn't, I'm over that I know those were all negative lies from Satan but you run into this when you want to have an effective witness for the cause of Christ I think where you want people to know you are a Christian, that you would pray, witness, do anything for them you could but sometimes when you live this life I think people misunderstand because there are or have been bad examples of people in church or Christians who do judge and look down on people when they shouldn't be doing that. I guess the part of it that really gets to me is that I'm not judgmental but people keep thinking that I'm looking down on them when in fact I'm not at all, I'm just standing upon God's promises and trying to be the best Christian that I can be. I've witnessed people who did judge and did have that wrong attitude and I don't ever want to be that way and am not that way but am saddened that people think that I am that way. God doesn't want us to be judgmental he wants us to reach out to one another and love each other. It is important we recognize what sin is and stay away from it and let people know where we stand but people have a hard enough time dealing with whatever they deal with, us judging them isn't going to do anything but harm. I guess prayer is the best thing to do in this situation because I know I've not done anything wrong yet I really feel like I have. God often intervenes in these situations, as I'm sure he will with me with this. I just felt it was real important to talk about this instead of letting it all fester inside and let it eat me up inside as I used to let things do. Know friends, whoever reads this that although I am a Christian and I strive to stay away from those things the Bible refers to as sin, that I don't go around judging and looking down on people all the time. I think maybe my quiet demeanor may make people think I am that way, when in fact I'm a very easy going person and the closer I've became to God I've just became more of that way and much less judgmental than I ever was before. I guess that's why I'm truly struggling with this so please pray for me in this matter that God will help me handle it the way He wants me to and that I don't get discouraged from it and may be able to encourage others. If you are going through anything like this, keep in mind we can make good judgment calls without being judgmental.