How is it that my dad had not one, but two major aneurysms during his life? First he had a brain aneurysm in 1976 and then one in the huge artery carrying blood to the legs in 1989. Amazingly he survived the operations both times and lived a happy life until his death at age 84 in 1998.
How is it that my mom battled being overweight her whole life? She fluctuated between being fheavy and “morbidly obese” her whole adult life. She was always on a diet and always extremely self conscience about her size. Her weight issues coupled with the arthritis that ravaged her body made her a very unhappy person who in time was not able to care for herself.
How is it that in 1997 I suffered a series of heart attacks that resulted in heart bypass surgery in 1998 at the age of 45? How is it that my whole life I have battled my weight and no diet or amount of exercise seems to help? How is it that starting in 2003 I have dealt with ongoing bouts of extreme pain that remain undiagnosed but are certainly part of the arthritis family?
How is it that my wife has had to put up with migraines since she was a teenager? How it is that my brother and sister have battled high blood pressure and diabetes their whole adult lives? How is it that time and time again a child or grandchild of someone who had breast or some other type of cancer ends up getting it themselves?
The answer to all these questions lies in the mysterious and at times taboo topic of genetics. Genetic flaws when passed along from one generation to the next are not so much some family curse but rather the result of Adam’s transgression. We know that Jesus Christ paid the price for sin and its consequences and by His stripes we were healed, but why is it that so many dynamic men and women of God still fall prey to physical and mental disease?
I am not a pleasant person to look at. I have a huge indention in my face that is the result of bones/tissue etc not coming together correctly as I developed in my mother’s womb. At times this “dent” has scared people as they assumed I was part of the mafia. At other times it has caused them to turn away and wonder what horrible thing I did to have this physical flaw.
My whole life I have had to put up with being heavy. People of all ages can be very cruel as they belittle and condemn those of us who are overweight. They assume we sit around eating cake all day and never walk, exercise or try to look or feel better. It is pitiful how society judges, ridicules and condemns those with physical or mental handicaps. The saddest part is that in many cases these handicaps were inherited and the person with them had nothing to do with having them.
Over the years I have seen Christians berate, condemn and cast off other Christians simply because of how they look or act. Just as there was at one time a secret code that stated that every physician had to be skinny and a genius; so there seems to be a code that any high and mighty Christian leader must be skinny and have a face custom made for a camera or a billboard.
I believe it is grossly unfair and spiritually negligent to judge people by their outward appearance and condemn them for their physical or mental deficiencies. I believe that we all must rise up and allow love to more than conquer the earthly temptation to judge and condemn someone because of how they look or the way they talk or think.
Every single one of us has genetic flaws that manifest themselves in physical diseases, physical deformities, emotional or mental issues and a whole host of other things. Who are we to judge another brother or sister because they get sick, fight depression, are not “pretty” or “handsome” or have a body that does not cooperate half of the time? It is my opinion that we, as God’s people, need to grow up and see past the outward flaws another person has (many of which are genetic in nature) and look on the heart of a person and love each other heart to heart. It is only when we look upon each other’s heart that we can honestly become one body with neither male nor female, bond nor free, black or white, handsome or …
Thank you for allowing me to open my heart and share about this subject. Many of us who are less than perfect physically or emotionally have spent much of our lives fighting to be accepted, respected and loved in spite of our shortcomings. Such a longstanding fight does wear us down at times and that is why we need each other’s love, support and prayers.
As always, Blessings, 2 You!
I did not realize (or I had forgotten) that your dad was a brain aneurysm survivor. Woooo Hoooo!
Genetics plays a much larger role than what we give it credit for. I was told that I was probably born with my brain aneurysm and after 49 years it finally ruptured. I am not alone. It is suspected that 60% of the population has this little genetic defect lurking inside their heads.
A long time ago, I discovered that it was a good idea for me to periodically ask God to help me to see myself through His eyes. Yes, you do see a lot of junk when you do that but there is something that completely overshadows that and that is all the things He absolutely loves about you.
In many respects, the internet has more fully revealed how mean we really are. Hiding behind an anonymous mask, I have been horrified at the cruel things people have said about others in regard to appearance and so forth. It is absolutely terrible! People who do so are the people who feel the most miserable about themselves but still... it is terrible!
Thank you for the reminder that we need to ask God to help us see not only ourselves but others through His eyes.
Excuse me, but I just have to comment here.
[quote]I am not a pleasant person to look at. I have a huge indention in my face that is the result of bones/tissue etc not coming together correctly as I developed in my mother’s womb[/quote]
You are wrong here. You are very pleasant to look at ~ you are a handsome man! Get rid of that dent and you'd have a big baby face! Get rid of that dent and you'd have ME to deal with and THAT would not be a pleasant thing!
[quote]I believe it is grossly unfair and spiritually negligent to judge people by their outward appearance and condemn them for their physical or mental deficiencies. I believe that we all must rise up and allow love to more than conquer the earthly temptation to judge and condemn someone because of how they look or the way they talk or think.[/quote]
I fess up that I have been guilty of this at times over the years - Lord help me to see the inner man as you do.