I got a call last night from my sister who said our 90 year old aunt will be passing away within a few days. This is a person who for much of my life I despised because she was just plain mean. But, this is also the person who in the past 10-15 years I became good friends with as she mellowed. I haven’t seen her for three years but I know that I will miss her.
Sitting on my desk is a letter my aunt wrote me a few weeks ago. I kept it on my desk to remind me to write her back. I never got around to it and now it is too late due to her condition. I am reminded again of how many times we intend to do something for someone but rarely do we actually do it. Many times it makes little difference if we do, but sometimes it does.
Back in the day (long before cell phones, e-mails and texting), there were only three ways to communicate with someone; a personal visit, a letter or a very expensive phone call. Due to the high cost of driving and calls, most people corresponded with each other via letters and cards. People used to look forward to going to the mailbox because many times there was personal mail in there. Of course now days the only things in a mail box are junk mail or bills.
The generation which understood the value of a letter is quickly leaving us. With each passing day there are fewer and fewer people who never owned a computer or a cell phone. These “ancients” depended on visits, letters and “land line” calls to stay in touch. One of those people was my mom and now her sister.
My mother-in-law who is staying with us for a season has some pretty severe short term memory issues. She can talk on the phone for an hour and not remember a single thing she talked about. This is very frustrating to her. This is why she loves mail and her eyes light up when I hand her a piece of mail that has come for her. With a letter, what was said will always be there for her to remember.
It is too late for me to write my aunt a letter now for she could not read it or even understood it being read to her. Needless to say, I am deeply disappointed with myself for procrastinating and not getting a short note off to her. Procrastination truly is one of our worst and greatest enemies isn’t it?
Is there someone you should be writing a letter to? Is there someone God has placed on your heart that needs your love, support or wisdom? If so, please learn from my failure and take the time to share your heart with them. You never know if it might be the last time you can.
I'm sorry to hear about your Aunt. Praying her suffering will not be long and that she has eternal peace with God.
Thank you for the reminder of the importance of letters. Yes there is one I should write. My Mom is in a nursing home and I do call her frequently and visit when I can make the trip there, but as you said there is something special and personal about getting a letter or even just a card.
Note to self -buy a box of cards.
You are right. I have never been much of a letter-writer I'm afraid but even receiving a simple card is a blessing which one can keep, look at and remember. It says that you weren't just a thought flitting through someone's mind. They thought about you, took the time to sit down to write out a letter or card (and perhaps even went out to purchase one especially for you) and mailed it. In other words, they put forth an effort.
Thanks for the reminder that it is today that we are living and we should never put off what we can do today.
Thank you, B2Y, as I must be among the worst of procrastinators!!! There is a saying, that says "Procrastination, is the thief of time."
Sad to hear of your Aunts passing, but good to hear that she had mellowed, over her long life.
God Bless ...mumbly
Good words B2Y.
You know, you could still write that letter... write it, put it in a box, and know that, at least in your heart, you put on paper what it is what you wanted to say.
Great news. I spoke with my cousin and my aunt has rallied and things do not look so dire after all. I sent her 3 get well cards yesterday and am planning to go visit her in about 10 days. God is good and His mercy endures forever. Thank you for all your comments and prayers!!