9/1/2014: We have learned that Kirk M+(Kirk M (@blessings2you)) has had to be taken to the ICU - he is unconscious but stable.
Please say a pray for Kirk - and share your thoughts here.
At this point in time Kirk is still in ICU and is still in stable condition. He has been sedated for nearly the entire time he has been in ICU due to a tracheal intubation. A port has been inserted in order to provide higher levels of antibiotics. Beth is holding in there too. A support team of family, friends, and neighbors are taking good care of her and their pets. At this point in time it could be a long wait until any further developments/news happens. We will keep everybody updated as conditions change. Please continue to keep the entire family and support team in your prayers.
That is a copy of the banner across the top of the CB website in early September last year. I am so very thankful to John John B. Abela (@abelajohnb) for putting that banner up there, and to the many members of CB who offered the most important means of support, the countless prayers offered on Kirk's behalf, many of which were typed onto CB.
What John did not realize at the time is that his banner was incorrect. There was NO FAMILY. There were NO NEIGHBORS who helped. My family is 1000 miles away; and although they prayed and called every day, not one of them came here. The people who came flying to my aid were the members of CB (our spiritual family) and my customers and co-workers.
Kirk joined CB long before I did. I thought he was nuts. After being on the site for awhile, he started talking about these "people" he knew on the site. Seriously. How on earth could you "know" someone in cyberspace? He talked about these people as if they were real! Pshaw! I remember he talked about "Kay Reynolds" (my interpretation of his saying K Reynolds (K Reynolds (K Reynolds (@kreynolds)))) and several others. I could NOT understand how he cared about these people, and how he believed they were real people! They could be axe murderers!
For over a year, this was my perception. Then in February of 2009, Kirk had to go into the hospital. He wanted to be able to let his "friends" on that Christian blogging site, know how he was doing. He asked me if I would join the site to be able to let them know how he was doing. I reluctantly agreed. Remember back then, we could not exchange real names, addresses, email addresses, or phone numbers. So they just knew Kirk as B2Y. No one knew his name.
I sometimes miss those days. But that is a blog for another time... oh, wait, Kirk already wrote that blog!
Anyway, B2Y was going into the hospital and the only way for his "friends" on CB to know how he was doing, was for me to join the site, request to be friends with certain people, and then send them messages.
There were 3 people that Kirk wanted me to contact. One was K Reynolds (K Reynolds (K Reynolds (@kreynolds))); one was @ptl2008; and I can't remember who the third one was. So I registered as "blest" (Kirk was blessings2you; so I decided I should be blest). I registered, asked those 3 people to be my friends so that I could send them messages, and knew that as soon as Kirk was out of the hospital, that I would get out of there!
Well, as they say, the rest is history! Obviously I never left. And obviously I came to know and understand what Kirk had seen in the people on this site. Which brings us full circle to this past fall when once again Kirk was in the hospital ~ this time in the fight of his life, the fight for his life.
Prayers were posted as soon as CB members learned of Kirk's hospitalization. I printed out the first 8 pages of prayers posted on CB and hung them in Kirk's hospital room. He was unconscious and never saw them, but I believe the spiritual impact that had on him and on hospital personnel, is immeasureable. I know the impact it had on me was tremendous. Christians, most of whom have never met Kirk, posted prayers - many prayers - and continued to do so for over 7 long weeks.
Upon hearing that Kirk was being admitted to ICU, K Reynolds (K Reynolds (K Reynolds (@kreynolds))) contacted me and asked me if I wanted her to come down here. I told her no, that I would be fine. She lives 500 miles away; she has responsibilities of her own; her husband had lost his job; she was no longer working because of her brain aneurysm... the list goes on. She asked again. Again, I said no. This time I said, "No, you can't afford that." She emphatically responded yes we CAN afford it. Upon reading that, my defenses dissolved and I called her. And cried. Through my tears, I got out "can you really come?" Her response? "I'm already packed."
She rented a car and drove down here, and spent a week with me. She took care of everything. She kept in contact with CB. She answered my phone when I could not face talking to anyone. She drove me to work. She drove me to the hospital. She took care of my animals. She cleaned up the floodwaters from my basement (more on that in a future installment). She told me what doctors and nurses had told me. (I could not remember anything, my brain was so non-functional.) She was my rock. I couldn't do anything for myself. As I said in the initial installment of this series: it is incomprehensible to people who have not been in this situation, how the stress of watching a loved one fighting for his life, drains you of every ounce of energy and brainpower. I was pretty much a zombie and Kathy took care of me. If she had not come down and spent the first week with me ~ which, at the time, I was sure, would be the only week ~ I would never have made it through the following weeks.
Dropping everything, she drove 500 miles, just to take care of me. Tears are flowing, just thinking about that. I took that picture of her with Kirk before she left, so he could "see" that she had been there.
"This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you." ~John 15: 12-14 King James Version (KJV)
"Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me." ~Matt.25:34-40 (KJV)
I have no doubt that when Kathy stands before her Lord, He will say to her: Well done, thou good and faithful servant. Never in this life, could I ever thank her enough for what she did.
I hope and pray that I have the privilege of standing in the front row cheering, as she receives her rewards from the Lord she serves so well.
Amazing how God brings people to CB even when they weren't sure about being here.
This is an awesome support group here at CB. The love here is undeniably real.
May God continue to Bless CB and all it's members.
"As I said in the initial installment of this series: it is incomprehensible to people who have not been in this situation, how the stress of watching a loved one fighting for his life, drains you of every ounce of energy and brainpower. I was pretty much a zombie and Kathy took care of me. If she had not come down and spent the first week with me ~ which, at the time, I was sure, would be the only week ~ I would never have made it through the following weeks."
It is - and I don't think anyone could think of a worse nightmare for a person to face than what you had to go through last year ... in so many ways. I don't know how you manage to write about it at all. It made me cry just praying for you, thinking of all you had to face.
The people who keep a person or a family together, by doing the kind of practical 'lifesaver' tasks K did for you, when a precious loved one is as ill as Kirk was - well, they are blessings whose value cannot be counted, and I agree with you in believing there will be a special "well done" for them in Heaven. I know that K will be 'blest' for it.
Thank you Beth M (@blest) for sharing this happy-sad blog full of love that will make everyone cry as it did me. You have painted the picture so beautifully.
I had just come home from visiting relatives in Iowa who live 200 miles away from me. That's when I got your message about Kirk's illness and I quickly told my husband about it while dialing your number. He came and stood in the doorway just long enough to hear a bit of the conversation. Then he disappeared while I continued talking to you.
Now that might seem strange behavior unless you happen to know that he was first checking the weather on the internet. Why? Because he knew the a/c was no longer working in my car and he wanted to see what the forecast was for your area. The predicted highs were going to exceed 100F/38C degrees. He began to check out rental cars. He had started a new job and knew he just did not have the time accrued yet to be able to take off like that but he had already determined that I should go.
I do not know how many husbands would be willing to have their wives hop in a car and drive 500 miles at the drop of a hat, but mine is. He figures that if God wants someone to go somewhere, you have no business standing in the way. Instead you need to roll up your sleeves and do what you can to help. By the time I got off the phone the first time, he had already worked out all of the details so that if you wanted me to come, I could come immediately.
What more can be said which has not already ... amazing love from God, K. and the people he brought into your life! Thank you for sharing!
When I saw the picture of you beside Kirk as he lie in the hospital bed, I couldn't help but think... 'this is an "angel" standing next to the angel that lie in the bed!' Because you look SO much like the sweetheart of a person that YOU are and so does Kirk! What a couple you two make!
When I began to read what you had written, I began crying and could hardly hold myself together to read through my tears of sorrow mingled with joy. Sorrow because of what had happened to Kirk and... no family and no neighbors helping. Joy because of the blessed sight of the two of you and because of what K had offered to do and DID! Praise God for such a wonderful friend to come and be with you at your greatest time of need. Oh... K! ~ God will surely say to you as blest wrote above: "Well done, thou good and faithful servant..."
A beautifully penned unforgettable story of love and compassion that melts my heart every time I re-read it and look at that "precious" picture. Love to you and Kirk, dear friend; and I send you a hundred s !
HOW GREAT GOD IS!
Oh, it's Kathy! I see now where you wrote that it was her. My apologies. ~~ But I will still have to say exactly what I wrote above... 'this is an "angel" standing next to the that lie in the bed!' :)
Because SHE looks SO much like the sweetheart of a person that SHE too is! And no doubt in my mind, blest, but what you exude with the same "angelic" kind of presence. :)
Love & blessings!
It has taken me longer than it should to begin to grasp that CB is much more than, 'just,' a website and how much I need CB in my life at this time. What a wonderful, wonderful story. God Bless, Phil
What more can I say but thank you "kay" for stepping out on your faith and love and coming down here to hold Beth's hand that first horrible week. You epitomize what not only a friend is, but a true sister-friend. I too hope to be on the front row cheering when the Lord gives you all the rewards due you for your service to God's people.
Thank God for angel army who took care of my Beth when I could not.
Amen! Glory to God..Dear Sis.K@kreynolds ...may God bless u and ur lovely family immensely..u look so sweet..such a sweet angel u are..May God fulfilll ur hearts desire..so happ to see u..love u always..