The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit (Psalms 34:18 - NIV).
There are many times when we end up breaking our own hearts. I am sitting back here wondering, isn't there a better way to handle, isn't there a way that we don't break our hearts. I really doubt if there is a way out to manage without heart breaks.
Today, me and my team are facing a difficult situation in our project and one of my teammates commented that may be he might end up drinking the whole weekend. Though he was joking, but in reality most of us have our own ways of handling our heart breaks. My trainer told me that he started gym when his heart broke. Every time we dont know how to handle the situation, our heart breaks. Ups and downs come in people's lives, with every "up" we get excited and happy, and we build our image out of it. With every "down" and we are unable to handle the situation our image breaks and we hear the heart break. Our heart beat has two sounds "lub-dub", it compresses and expands, it is the way it works, and it cleanses the whole body. Everytime the image breaks, a new image is formed, a better one, by the grace of God.
As we mature and are able to handle the difficult situations, we have less number of heart breaks and we learn to handle heart breaks better. When I was a kid i used to cry, shout, go under the sofa be alone everytime my heart breaks. As I grewup I learnt to isolate myself and crying when my heart breaks. After being in Christ I learnt to read the Bible and hold on to God when my heart breaks.
As we learn to handle situations better the frequency of the heart breaks decreases. How many years or months or days did I managed without a break in my heart? It used to daily, eventually it became it breaks weekly, then monthly breaks and now may be it breaks every 3 months once. When the situation is hard, the heart might break daily but as the heart matures and grows up in the same situation, it knows how to handle it and the heart stops breaking.
We cannot stop the way our Heart works, just because we cannot bear the pain. Sometimes trying to stop the way our heart behaves when it breaks, has worser effects in our body and mind, than letting it do what it wants to do. It will be okay by itself. Just read the Bible and trust in the Lord who created us, that we are going to be fine as the situations improve or we get used to the situation, either way.
Psalms 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (NIV)