Rom. 12:8 - If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
Scripture has some very specific directions on how to address conflict. So much so in times past, I turned the truths and principles into a formula. A + B = C based on some of these passages:
Another good verse when starting is:
Then additional wisdom in the book of James:
Then a verse familiar to all:
These passages lay a good foundation for Biblical conflict resolution but are only a starting point. Attempting to perform them I quickly would "burn out" or quit. Over the years I have learned resolving conflict is not a formula or easily mapped path. Rather, it is deeply relational, personal and traversed in the power of the Holy Spirit.
If any formula it is (A + B) Holy Spirit = God Glorified Resolution. This requires much time spent in the Lord's presence; His word, prayer, oneness and utter dependency on empowerment by the Spirit.
Ensuring Christ is at the center and directing the outcome of issues guarantees God's Kingdom will is done on earth and in heaven. Disputes, now take a back seat to actions directed and done by the Power of His love.
Not only have the parties' at odds melted under the love and grace of God. Others around not knowing the Lord witness, sense, and disappear into He Who is Love.
I John 4:7, 8 - Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
Kari Jobe - Be Still My Soul
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