According to a [url= released by the Pew Research Center earlier this week, 39 percent of Americans say marriage is becoming obsolete, up from 28 percent in 1978. Though, according to the study, the majority of Americans still have a positive view of marriage, the idea of marriage becoming obsolete is what made the news this week. What interests me in the study is the word obsolete. This is a strong word. It denotes something that's no longer practical or usable. So, in effect, about 40 percent of Americans see marriage as irrelevant, something that we can write off, according to the study. Through what kind of lens would a person be looking to view marriage this way? Since God came up with the idea of marriage, and He never does the irrelevant, obviously those who regard marriage as becoming obsolete do not have a perspective consistent with God's on the subject. Take, for example, our society's concept of morality versus God's laws that define morality. He regards sex before marriage and sex outside of marriage as sin. Remember adultery and fornication? So to Him marriage will always be essential to society because it is the legitimate means through which a man and a woman through their union can bring forth children and replenish the earth. In our society, on the other hand, it is totally acceptable for unmarried couples to live together and to bear children. Looking at things that way, one can see how many Americans might conclude that marriage is obsolete. The thirty-nine percent referred to in the study is a high number of Americans who see marriage as becoming obsolete. That's approximately 2 out of every 5 persons. The survey has a total margin of error of plus or minus 2.6 percentage points. Even on the low side, we are talking tens of millions of adults. But the trend regarding marriage that was highlighted in the report is consistent with something the Bible says about what people's attitude toward marriage will be in the last days. It says that as the end nears that there will be those who "forbid people to marry" (1 Timothy 4:3). Forbidding others from marrying is much stronger than simply regarding marriage as obsolete. Forbidding marriage is tantamount to seeing marriage as the enemy. My point? It is that with time, society's view toward marriage will become less and less favorable. This suggests a continuously increasing departure from God's perspective on the significance of marriage. This study by the Pew Research Center is simply a microcosm of our society's continual drift from God on all fronts, and it will continue with time. I am persuaded that God knows more about what's best for our society than people do. He created man and woman. He created the earth and everything that is in it. Marriage was His idea. In the Bible, He gives us priceless guidance on how to have a rewarding and lasting marriage. This in turn is a fundamental building block to our society. For stable marriages promote stable families. And stable families promote stable neighborhoods, and stable neighborhoods promote stable cities and a stable nation. That's not obsolete. That's essential. I'm sticking with God's plan. What about you? Frank King
You are right on the money with this blog. I liked reading it. The fact is that in the west we have gotten to a point where 50% of marriages end in divorce...so people find themselves asking what is the point? Why bother? Marriage was always viewed as a contract, a sacrament before God. It was sacred. Now it is throwaway. Pop culture has rewritten the moral code in the west, and the result is not good. Not only is marriage falling out of favor and ending in divorce half of the time, our birth rates are rapidly declining. People seem content to enjoy the present moment without regard to the consequence. Why work through your problems when you an just bail or jump ship; repeating the same process over and over. Marriage is about sacrifice, true love is surrender. But our culture spits in the face of true and Godly ideals. We are self obsesed and only stay in relationships or marriage so long as it is convenient. Everything is about the self, see? If the hypergamous mating culture of the west continues, I do think in a few decades marriage will in fact disappear completely. May God bless our children and their children so that they learn from the mistakes of our out of control generation.
Brother Frank, the situation here is almost the same. Many young people live together , but when they get pregnant, they get married. Sadly, I know of many marriages that have plenty of affairs, male and female alike. Many of them stay married for the sake of children, but love is no longer with them.
Many of them put on a front of a marriage to their relatives, or friends but they do not even live in the same room anyway. And divorce is on the rise.
Marriage is not as popular as it used to be. Sadly, It is no longer the same as what God intended marriage to be, ie till death do us part.
Thanks for sharing
From Hwa Silverpen
love your blog. just heard about what you spoke of on the news.like i told a few people months ago including my wife, if you never sen it modeled in your home, you dont have a clue. then you try to figure it out and stumble and bumble like'inspector clueso"from the pink panther movies.. be blessed
As a public school teacher, I see the sad results of this every day. My husband and I will celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary next summer. We are acutely aware that we are "dinosaurs" in the fact that not only have we been married for a long time... we have only been married to each other. That is a very rare thing nowadays.
Getting to this point has meant commitment. Commitment to God and commitment to one another. It has not always been easy... life rarely is. However, it is worth it!
Marriage... it is a beautiful picture of the relationship God desires us to have with Him. No wonder it is so brutally attacked!
I'm sticking with God's plan! Thanks for sharing and pointing these things out just at 1 Timothy 4:6 says.
Thanks for sharing of this, Brother Frank! I have known couples who have opted for a JP instead of God as their minister! ! Those are jolting stats! Families without God, may as well be likened to a dry lake! How sad that this sacred institution has become show biz (Elvis pastors) ,for example and far outside God's established laws of marriage! God Bless you and your family, richly, my friend! Dave