Does God love men more than He does women? Or is it men who think they are loved more?
[Genesis 19:5-8; NIV, (5) They called to Lot, "Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them." (6) Lot went outside to meet them and shut the door behind him (7) and said, "No, my friends. Don't do this wicked thing. (8) Look, I have two daughters who have never slept with a man. Let me bring them out to you, and you can do what you like with them. But don't do anything to these men, for they have come under the protection of my roof.]
In Genesis we see Lot offering his daughters. He would not allow the strangers to defile the men because that would be detestable to God, but his daughters were useless so go ahead and defile them. No it is not God's will, but the sinful will of men. The men were under the protection of Lot's roof, but his daughters were of no importance.
The Bible is filled with treatment of women that is not godly. This mistreatment was not by God but by men who put their value to God above that of a women's value.
Is your spiritual partner your physical partner for life? I have heard several people claim that the first person you have a physical relationship with is your spiritual partner for life chosen for you by God. That first person is the spouse chosen for you by God. This is not a new belief. It has been around for many years. In this situation, Lot's daughters would have then been married to these strangers for life, and it was God's will for them
Violent acts against women of any age are never God's will. Then also at what age is a girl a woman? Is she considered women from the moment of birth, so that a man can force himself on any female from birth and claim her as his wife until she dies? If that man is a relative, father, brother that certainly cannot be God's will. That would be God's will for her life, making her a meaningless unimportant property of some man.
Nowhere in God's word does it say man shall have many wives. That is a man law not a God law. God didn't order men to have many wives. The men choose to take many wives. All though the Bible speaks of divorce it is the man divorcing a woman, never a woman being allowed to divorce a husband. A remarried woman is committing adultery, but that term is never said of a man who marries more then once. No man was ever presented for stoning accused of adultery only women.
Yet Leviticus 20:10 says
¯If a man commits adultery with another man's wife-with the wife of his neighbor-BOTH the ADULTERER (man) and the ADULTERESS (women) must be put to death
Nowhere in God's word does it say that a man should pay for a wife. That is a man law not a God law. In biblical times, women were PROPERITY to be owned, that's why a man ¯paid' for a wife. That was a man law, not God law.
God loves women with the same love as he does the men. God's laws were written to protect women, but many men distort and manipulate the scripture to their own advantage. In the beginning, there were only the 10 commandments. Laws had to be made to govern the activities of sinful human kind, because of the evil in the hearts of humans. God never changes but how he deals with His children does change.
Deuteronomy 22:25-29, NIV
(25) But if out in the country a man happens to meet a girl pledged to be married and rapes her, ONLY
the man who has done this shall die.
(26) DO NOTHING
to the girl; she has committed no sin deserving death. This case is like that of someone who attacks and murders his neighbor,
(27) for the man found the girl out in the country, and though the betrothed girl screamed, there was no one to rescue her.
(28) If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered,
(29) he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Would anyone today tell a woman of any age that she would have to spend the rest of her life married to the man who raped her and that is was God's will? But that's what the Word says. The man then would have forced his will upon the women. If God never forces His will, why would He allow a human to force their will on someone? God never changes but how He deals with His children does.
Jesus was a leader, but He did not lead by force, He lead by serving. The two shall be as one, and then the husband and wife serve each other. God chooses our life partner when two people pray and ask for guidance. He will direct them lead them and bring them together after both have made a commitment to God first.
Women have in history had the will of human men forced upon them in the disguise of legalistic rules made by men not the laws of God. Many are caught in this quagmire of legalism claiming to know God's will and forcing that will upon others. This is especially true of men towards women.
God's laws in the 10 commandments are as important as they have always been.
The problem with the quagmire of legalism is that it does not allow God's grace or forgiveness to enter in. It most often deals only with the anger of God and not His love. It deals with condemnation not forgiveness. We now live under the law grace, not the law.
There is a difference between punishment and discipline. Discipline teaches right from wrong but punishment deals only with God's anger. God's discipline teaches, encourages and draws us closer to Him. We learn with discipline.
[Galatians 3:28-29, NIV,
There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male or female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.]