Yesterday, I read davies36 excellent blog entitled King David and The Adult Channel. That has moved me to write the following blog in regards to a topic which has been on my heart at various times over the years.
Often pornography has been viewed as a male issue. While that is usually (though not always) the case, I would like to say that many women are in bondage to the same spirit as well. It just looks a bit different. Unfortunately, what women indulge in is not usually viewed by the world in the same light. It is considered just a simple love story .
Since we are wired a bit differently in this area, the enemy often uses a different method to entrap women. We may not pick up one of those magazines or go to those websites or watch those channels. However, we have no problem picking up those books. You know the ones I'm talking about. They usually have a man on the cover who looks like he could rescue a woman from anything. As a bonus, he looks just like the Prince Charming women imagine from the time they are little girls. Yes, there is always a heroine in the story but we're not interested in her too much. It's easy to shove her aside in our minds and put ourselves in her place. These are the stories that make our hearts beat faster.
This man swoops into our lives and does exciting things. He rescues damsels in distress. He's a man of action. He's a worldly imagine of Prince Charming and he stands ready to sweep us off our feet. He also fills our mind with dissatisfaction in regards to our own lives. He can cause a woman to jump from one relationship to another looking for him. He can cause a married woman to become dissatisfied with her own husband. "Why can't my husband be more like..." or "I wish my husband would..." Don't think for a moment that your husband doesn't sense this. He might not be able to quite put his finger on what is going on but women are masters at letting men know that all is not well in marital paradise. When she's dissatisfied, he becomes dissatisfied and that can open up another can of worms!
I am so thankful that the Holy Spirit made me aware of this trap when I was still a teenager. Like a lot of young girls I started to read romance novels. Then I became aware of how they began to trigger thoughts and feelings which weren't pleasing to God. From that moment on, I began to carefully guard what I read. I selected books by authors whose works I was familiar with. I tried to stick with writings by other Christians or writers who I knew focused on true love rather than lust. Not all love stories are impure. Not all pictures of women are impure either! What I'm talking about are stories which involve lust and seed our minds with impurity.
There are other venues the enemy uses to entrap women but you get the idea. Both men and women need to be very careful of what we put into our minds. Remember, we are in a battle and the enemy will use every tactic he can to destroy us!
Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me-everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:7-9 (NLT)
I tell you what, one can also read Christian novels and come to that same dissatisfaction with the spouse God has given you. Because you read of those wonderful, godly, caring men who is everything your husband is not. Your verse is perfect, to think on those things that are of God and not fill your mind and thoughts with things that only cause you to have discontent with what God has given you. I have been there. We must be ever so careful with what we watch, read, listen and see, especially our attitudes when we do. Thanks K for the reminder! Blessings! Andrea
Great post but I must admit I did not write the one on King David... I can't seem to find it now, so perhaps someone can put up the correct author's name. I don't want to deprive someone else their proper due.
As someone who has enjoyed reading from an early age, I am truly thankful that the Lord also showed me as a 14 year old some 'love stories' are simply not worth the time and effort to read them.
Thanks for an excellent blog.
B2Y I also remember that blog by you.
Just checked on the blog King David and the adult channel. It was written by davies36. I remember reading it and also thought it was by B2Y. Similar writing styles, maybe or some of us are having 'senior moments' a little too often.
I feel you there, K! I pretty much grew up reading those "simple love stories" and once I moved back in with my mom, I went back to reading them! However once I was filled with the Holy Spirit, that was one of first items I was convicted of reading! (the other was science fiction/fantasy...)
They are a form of escapism that we, as believing women cannot afford to indulge in!
@ B2Y--Thank you for pointing out my error. I've made the correction and give my apologizes to davies36. This is what happens when I read a blog the night before. KK commented that she had thought the same thing so maybe it is not my chemo brain acting up. Of course, I now have a good excuse for the things I say or do.
Andrea Lynn (@allforhim)--Thank you for pointing out that even reading [i]Christian[/i] novels can have its pitfalls. If they cause you to desire to a closer relationship with your spouse and you take steps to try to make that happen, that's a good thing. However, if they cause you to want to look for someone else or wish your spouse were someone else, you need to close the book and bring your discontentment before God. After all, he is the author of true love and the only one who can make your dreams come true. Those dreams may not look like anything you envisioned but that doesn't matter. God knows what's best for you.