Take A Deep Breath, Count To Ten And Don't Think The Worst First

This blog could finds it's place in marriage, family, relationships, etc. so I'm putting it in Christian life.

As a teacher, I try to teach my students to take a deep breath and count to 10 before reacting to a situation. This usually helps calm them down, avoid trouble and keep from hurting someone. I'd like to say that I always do this without fail. While I often do remember to do this, I have to admit that sometimes I fail. I had a little incident happened today to remind me that things are not always as they seem and we need to guard our tongues and not always react so quickly.

Today I was responding to an email I had received from support regarding a technical problem I was having. When I went to send in my response which contained some additional information, an account suspension notice popped up. My first reaction was disbelief. I let out a yell. My husband had taken the day off to do some things at home and he asked me what was wrong.

I told him and he grinned at me. "What did you do?"

"Urgh....I have no idea!" Then I started to try to think. I had been fiddling around a bit trying to see if my problem was resolved while writing this response. I'm a teacher of young children so I multi-task all of the time! I thought about what I had been doing. That didn't make any sense. Needless to say, I felt frustration begin to well up in me. I hadn't done anything wrong. If I had it wasn't intentional. Why I'd....
Oops! I stopped. I took a deep breath and waited a moment or two. I sent another email explaining what had happened and inquiring as to what the problem was. Then I left for a couple of hours to run some errands.

When I returned home, an email was awaiting me. There had been a technical problem and everything had been corrected. It was simply a mistake.

This seems like a small thing, but it just made me think of how many times people say angry words when something was done in error or there was just a simple misunderstanding. How many friendships have been broken apart or family members refusing to speak to each other
because someone said or did something that hurt them. How many marriage break-ups started up and then spun out of control simply because of instant responses or assumptions?

As a young bride (almost 26 years ago), I remember my husband teasing me about something in front of friends that embarassed me. I wanted to really let him have it but having an audience prevented me from doing so. Later, I started thinking about how much he loved doing little things for me and always encouraged me and was behind me 100%. He had always shown me lots of love and never criticized me. I got to thinking about that. It just didn't make sense that he would try to hurt; unless it wasn't deliberate. That was a new thought. Was it possible that he didn't realize what he had done. Surely he must, I thought to myself but what if he didn't.

On the way home, I softly mentioned that it hurt my feelings when he was teasing me. Usually, I didn't mind good-natured teasing, but this time I did. I have a very wise husband. He didn't tell me to not be silly. He just quietly took my hand and said, "I'm sorry, I didn't know I was hurting you." A fight was avoided simply because I took a deep breath, counted to 10 and didn't assume the worst in a person.

K Reynolds @kreynolds ·

I teach in at an inner-city public school.

Lily Christianto @magnolia ·

Hi kreynolds! Your today's testimony has become a strong reminder to me! Praise His mighty name and blessed are those who are used as His spokepersons. I live in a non-English speaking country and up to 2003, I used to be a teacher as well :teach: ... teaching small children, students of junior and senior high, academy's students, even housewives. I have been much blessed by this job because I got opportunities to introduce the Lord Jesus to some of them. Besides, I was also trained to use my tongue according to His will: not to discourage those who were my pupils.