The Puzzle Piece

Earlier today I was musing about the differences between men and women. Okay, there are the very obvious ones but I am not talking about physical differences. i am talking about the differences in how we think and how we behave.

Growing up in the United States during the 1960's and 1970's, I was very much aware of the message which declare that "the girls were just as good as the boys". The need to declare this to the world rather puzzled me because to me that was always obvious. 😉

When I was growing up, my extended family was predominantly female. My dad only had one sibling, a brother who was nine years older than him and who I never even met until I was 14 years old. His parents also passed away before my parents were even married. On that side of the family, I have one first cousin who is about 20 years older than I am and his two children. I keep in loose contact with one of his children.

It is a different story on my mom's side of the family. My maternal grandfather was an orphan. His only sister had died as a child. My maternal grandmother had four sisters. Her only brother died shortly after birth. My mother was one of eight. There were two boys and six girls in the family. Out of 26 grandchildren on that side of the family there were 10 grandsons and 16 granddaughters. Out of sheer necessity, the message in my family was not "boys are better than girls". The message was "everyone needs to do their best to do whatever needs to be done."

One of the problems of the feminist movement in America was that it attempted to try to transform or re-make women into something they are not. We are NOT men! We are women. Now by that I do not mean we are the stereotypical woman. The only women I know who are delicate little creatures who wouldn't say boo to a newborn kitten are the ones who are playing mind games and trying to get someone (typically of the male persuasion) to believe they are something they are not.

The women I know are smart, cunning individuals who will fight to the death defending those whom they love. They can manage to feed and clothe a family no matter how tight the budget is and they can transform a mere house into a home... even if they have no fashion sense whatsoever. Some of us don't you know. Sigh...

God designed women to be well... women because He knew that we were exactly what men needed. We compliment them but the reverse is also true. God knew that we needed men and they compliment us. That's the beauty of this whole thing. Women do not need to behave like men and men do not need to behave like women. We need to behave the way God created us to be.

As I look back on my marriage of nearly 32 years, I realize something. There are times when I need the level-headedness of my husband. I get too carried away with my emotions and feelings and I need him to be there to get me to slow down, not act impulsively and think things through thoroughly. On the other hand, there are times when he needs my impulsiveness to spur him into action. Otherwise he will "research" something for 20 years, LOL! He needs me to share with him that "gut-feeling" which women know so well but find difficult to explain. Due to the way God made us and that women naturally are more vulnerable than men, he realizes that I am quicker to detect "danger" than he is and he has learned that when I do, we need to stop and pray about it.

Men and women. We are not wrong in regards to our differences. We are simply behaving in the manner that God designed us and that's a good thing. Together, we provide one another with the missing piece and together we are no long halves but whole.


K :princess:

Joyce Bethy Ferguson @bethy ·

This is very good. One of the problems I found with the feminist movement is that some within that movement have throughout the years tried, successfully at times, to demean the male of the species. To remove his trousers and put him back into shorts.

Some men have also fell foul of the feminist cause. They will decry a strong woman as a raging feminist... or worse!

We are, the two halves, created to be a whole. One without the other is not complete. I am glad to be the missing piece in the puzzle . I love this blog actually.

Alison Stewart @kiwibird ·

My understanding of the feminist movement is limited to watching the development of my Christian/Feminist/budding Theologian daughter. As she has observed the full spectrum of Christian feminists she has even referred to some as fruit loops! I agree, K:princess:, God created us to be different but to treat and acknowledge one another as equal in Christ. Society has made, and continues to make, many assumptions about male and female roles, with compartmentalising allowing issues to be swept under the carpet. We do well to remember that God chooses based on the willing heart, not the gender.


Barbra Lambert @enje25 ·

[quote]Together, we provide one another with the missing piece and together we are no long halves but whole.[/quote]

How insightful! I don't know how it could have been described any better!