When they first met, she thought he was a "geek" and he thought she was a radical feminist. He took one look at her "sword" and thought it might be in his best interest to avoid it. LOL!
The problem was, they were both freshmen at a rather small college and ironically, they were drawn to the same friends. In fact, a few weeks later she started dating his roommate...briefly.
Rather than give up their friends, they decided to simply put up with each other and gradually discovered it wasn't as hard as they thought it would be. She discovered he wasn't a geek and he discovered she was not as radical as he had thought. Opinionated and spirited, yes but that was not always such a bad thing.
They got to know one another and became friends. In fact, they quickly became the best of friends. He discovered that he instinctively knew how to avoid her "sword" and learned he could easily disarm her. She didn't mind, LOL, and so the friendship grew.
After attending a Christian concert together with a group of friends one night, they talked and shared with one another what was growing in their hearts. He put his arm around her and said he didn't know what the future held but God did. They were married two years and a half years later.
Life was not always easy for them. They had the usual challenges most married couples face. They spent their first year of marriage completing their college education...both of them. He got laid off a few weeks after starting a new job, they were far from their family and so forth. With each obstacle however, they learned to trust God even more.
After 26 years of marriage, they discovered that she had breast cancer. They put their hands in the hands of God and and battled it together... side by side, just like they always had. Two years later, on a cold, dark December night, just as he was drifting off to sleep, he suddenly became wide awake as she abruptly started to choke and was struggling to breath. First breast cancer, then a ruptured brain aneurysm and a stroke. He thought he was going to lose her that night but placed her in the hands of the One who loved her even more than he did. God is letting her stay with him a little while longer. Their son later told her that he saw everything she was going through reflected in the eyes of his father. That happens to people when they are "one flesh", you know.
He never complained as he cared for her and when she would cry about being a hardship rather than a "helpmeet", he would look at her with love in his eyes and let her know how glad he was that she was there for him to care for. He didn't care how "ugly" she looked and even if shed suffered serious brain-damage, he only wanted to be with her. She was a part of him!
Today marks the thirty-second anniversary of that "first date", the day we decided to see where God would take "us". It has not always been an easy run but it has been a good one. We started out with God and He has still faithfully been with us every step of the way since then.
Love and marriage is not about fluffy, fluttery feelings. It is about loving one another, no matter what. Anyone who has been married for a number of years can tell you, it is not the "good times" that strengthen a marriage so much... it is the times when you must come together in unity and face life together... no matter what.
Marriage the way God designed it. It is a beautiful picture of the loving relationship God wants to have with each of us.
Congrats, Sister K. Sounds like you have a wonderful great husband. Thanks God for the union and for all He has done to provide and bless this marriage. May there be more happy years ahead that both of you will live to see your children's children and in good health, till the day the Lord will take you Home.
Thanks for sharing
From Hwa Silverpen