Thirty years ago today, a couple of twenty-year-olds faced each other and in front of God and a number of witnesses they said their marriage vows.
...to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
They never realized, on that hot August day in 1981, that they would be required to prove those words over again. The young husband never dreamed that he would sit beside his bride, holding her hand as powerful chemo drugs rushed through her body. He didn't know that one dark night just as he was drifting off to sleep, he'd be awakened by her struggling to live. He never knew that he'd have to watch her struggle with the after-effects of these battles.
It is not enough to simply say you love someone. We must prove it. It is at this point that marriages fail. One or both of the parties proves that they love the other enough to receive love... but not to fully give it. Sometimes there are factors which render them unable to fully give it such as when an addiction is involved but I believe that is the exception rather than the rule.
We talk about God's love for us but do we demonstrate our love for Him through our actions as well as our words? That is something to think about.
That man I married 30 years ago today walked through the door today with some lovely roses from a little florist we know that has great prices. While I adore red roses, I know they are only a representation of what he has proved to me over and over again through his actions. When this man said "... to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part"... he meant it and so did I.
PS Please note: I went to considerable inconvenience to write a particularly decorative comment in view of your particularly important celebration. UNFORTUNATELY none of the smilies (including the 30 wedding bell smilies) would appear so, desirous as I was of offering you a particular greeting I decided to post the greeting anyway. UNFORTUNATELY I had only 46 words (according to my computer) and so my comment did not send. UNFORTUNATELY I have now lost enthusiasm for decorating with great cheer so you will have to settle for the following .. (assuming I now have more than 50 words ;) )
hmmm may be one more go...
But...even the first three didn't show up.
I was jus' tryin' to brighten yous fullas days. ;)