Praying Together

To some, praying with your spouse and/or children is second nature. This doesn't apply to my family. It seems odd from an analytical standpoint that we talk about God, the word and attend church together yet we don't pray together. For myself, this is a holdover from my childhood. We didn't pray as a family except over supper. I never saw or knew of my parents praying together. We prayed at church - but for the most part - your prayer life was private. My hubby wasn't raised in church so he is more of a prayer conversationalist, although, in the last year has started having more dedicated praying time yet always by himself. I can see that God wants this to change for my family. I've expressed this to them - only to be met by the teenage eye rolls. It's uncomfortable for all of us because it's new and definitely falls into the "uncool" category when compared to what the world tells us we should be doing with our time and in whom we should put our trust. I see now that this is how come my family has been vulnerable to attack (duh) - but I'm at a loss for how to get started. Do I wait for my husband to take the lead and just keep praying that it will happen soon? Do I start the process? I've sat across from my husband in counseling (Christian) and told him that I want to know what he prays for - but he's uncomfortable with that discussion, let alone actually praying together. This is one of those times where I worry that my own desires drown out the voice of the Spirit. Do I be still - and wait on God or is He wanting me to take action and that is why the desire is there? We will be married for 18 years next week and I can count the number of times we've prayed together using one hand. It doesn't take a masters degree is psychology to figure out why we have struggled - and it seems so simple. Yet, the distance between where we stand today and where we need to be stretches out like a desert - seemingly endless. In my heart - I know God can transport us in the blink of an eye and give us this foundation as we start our 19th year. It's frustrating, being able to see the path so clearly yet unable to walk down it. I've broached this subject with fellow Christian friends in real life and am met with one of two responses, "What? You don't pray together? My family prays together twice a day every day - always have." or they are just like us. I haven't found anybody that has been there..done that...let me loan you the t-shirt. I am in prayer about this - conversationally and in earnest. I pray that God's will be done in my family and that he continue this miraculous healing he started 8 months ago. My family is being restored. I try to surrender my own desires and time tables so that I can discern how He wants to use me in this situation. The one scripture that keeps coming to mind is 1 Peter 3:1-4 (NIV) 1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. While my husband is already won over - the battle wages on.


In my family, my dad found the Lord later than my mother after many years of opposition and rebellion.

My mother was the prayer warrior and understood that dad must be leader in the family even when my dad felt uncomfortable taking the lead in family prayer as a new Christian.

However, she patiently " manouvered" over a period time by the grace of God to finally have my dad take the leadership by helping him be comfortable to lead in prayer in the following ways:

  1. My mother shared with my father that the family that prays together stays together.
  2. When my father agreed, she borrowed some "prayer books" from the church library or wrote out some prayers to help him use as our early family prayers.
  3. She then introduced family prayer items for us to pray for and suggested words and ideas for prayer. Sometimes us children chipped in with prayer for certain of our school or other home items
  4. We discussed God's answers to our specific prayers very quickly acknowledging God's help and presence in our lives before each prayer time
  5. As my dad's confidence in praying increased, he took over leading in prayer of his own volition and then taking over the Family Altar time.

We always ended family prayer with the Lord's Prayer together.

It was worth it all as many were the trials and temptations, sicknesses and worries we overcame with prayer as a family.
Divided we sometimes stumbled but. united in prayer as a family we stood over the years, Praise the Lord.

Kim Gregg @ladywithaview ·

FINALLY! Someone with the t-shirt.

Thank you for sharing that with me - I can't tell you how much that helps. It's a great idea to end in the Lord's prayer together - that is one we all know by heart. I have many written prayers to draw from (another good idea). One thing that jumped out at me was that you mother "patiently" manouvered...that is what I should be praying for. Patience.

Thanks again - and god bless!

Alan Brown @coldapplianceman ·

I have been blessed with meeting, falling in love, and even mentored by a Christian woman. I have always fantasized what it would be like to be in love with someone I can pray with..I prayed and begged God for this kind of relationship. Well, HE answered my prayer and more. Being a little shy it was okay for me and her to hold hands and pray in private..I love it! However it is a little different for me in public as she is not shy at all, quite contrarily she is bold for Christ and I was a little taken aback at first. But I love that spirit in her, to watch that! The best part is it gets more and more comfortable every day..(thank you GOD). We even pray before all meals in a restaurant. I think if one starts off slow in an intimate setting to pray together and to let them know this is very important to you it will happen. Pray over this and be ever vigilant..It will be Gods Will... It has become a "cool" thing to

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