So be content with who you are, and don't put on airs. God's strong hand is on you; He'll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you 1 Peter 5:6-7 (MSG)
Sometimes, we all need help. And sometimes, this is difficult to admit. Maybe because asking for help can make us feel inadequate, maybe insecure, maybe it makes us feel as though we're just not good enough. Recently my husband and I changed phone systems at our small business. It really shouldn't have been a big deal, we have 7 phones and 3 lines coming in, a simple change. But, For some reason I wanted my husband to be there the day of the change. I normally run the store and he works another job so he had to take the afternoon off to be there. (I really didn't think that I would need him, I know what I'm doing, but I figured I should be cautious, and let me tell you, God sure does have a way of watching out for me) We were getting ready to switch all the lines over and the lady who programs the phones began to show us how to use these new phones, how to answer them, put calls on hold, switch lines and so on. As she began, I instantly knew that the way the new phones were programed was not going to work in our busy atmosphere without a receptionist (and we can't afford to hire a receptionist). Now here's the problem, I tend to shy away from confit. Okay, if I'm being honest I am one of the most conflict avoidant people I know. I absolutely hate conflict. I would rather suffer myself than make someone else change to meet my needs. (Especially when it's someone who I do not know well) Now, here's were asking for help came in, or not asking for help in my case. My wonderful husband looked at me and I know he could read my expression; this is where he interjected. He had my back, and he politely expressed that the programming we needed was not an option, it was a necessity for us to properly run our business, he told them that this system simply would not work the way it was. So, the people from the phone company began making calls to try and figure out a way to program the phones to meet our needs. This process took quite a while, I went home to get the kids to bed and left my husband with them at our store. I knew that if they couldn't get the phones working the way we needed them to, he would be able to politely tell them they would need to start back at square one.
My husband knew I needed help, and he knew I would be afraid to ask. If he hadn't been there that night, I am positive I would've had a huge problem on my hands the next day. I went home that night and laid in bed (waiting for him to get home) thinking about how blessed I am to have him as a husband and a business partner. I think everyone could agree that there are times when we just don't want to ask for help, we don't want to admit that we can't accomplish something on our own, or we're simply afraid. And why not reach out to others or better yet to God? Maybe it's because we have problems putting our trust in someone else. Or, maybe we don't like to admit that we can't handle things on our own. It's humbling to ask someone to help us but it's also a stepping stone that allows us to build strong relationships. The kind of relationships in which we can lay down all of our self-doubt and insecurities. I thought about how I don't mind asking my husband to help me, but asking a stranger or an acquaintance is a different story. There are times, that I ask my husband for help with even simple things, tasks I could probably do on my own but are much easier done with his help. I am so comfortable with him that I am not afraid to ask him for help, for him to see my weaknesses. That comfort came from trusting him, from trusting that he would love me in spite of my flaws. It seems this is true with God also. The more we reach out to Him, the more comfortable we become with Him, and the more comfortable we become with Him, the easier it is to admit our weaknesses and inadequacies. To realize that He will love us in spite of these flaws and limitations is a remarkable revelation!!! We are all human, we all have imperfections but God can take these imperfections and make us perfectly HIS if we just ask.
That comfort came from trusting him, from trusting that he would love me in spite of my flaws. It seems this is true with God also. The more we reach out to Him, the more comfortable we become with Him, and the more comfortable we become with Him, the easier it is to admit our weaknesses and inadequacies. To realize that He will love us in spite of these flaws and limitations is a remarkable revelation! We are all human, we all have imperfections but God can take these imperfections and make us perfectly HIS if we just ask.
I have this issue to but I would like to suggest another reason besides the ones you mentioned. Sometimes we simply do not want to bother someone. That has always been a big one for me. I hate to feel like I am being a "pest". Then one day, someone happened to mention to me that they thought about calling me to help them with a problem they were having but they didn't because they didn't want to be a burden. I felt awful! I let them know that they could call me any time and I would be glad to help them if I could. I realized that in actuality, I was not being fair in assuming people would not want to help me. Yes, there are people who are "inconvenienced" but there are many others who are more than willing to come along side you and take great joy in doing so. I am doing better at asking for help now.