"Grace (from the Greek New Testament word charis) is God's unmerited favor. It is kindness from God that we don't deserve. There is nothing we have done, nor can ever do to earn this favor. It is a gift from God." (Mary Fairchild, Definition of God's Grace)
How many times have you've seen God's wonderful grace displayed in your life? Me? More than I could ever count and for this I am extremely grateful. He loved me when I was unlovable. He blessed me when I deserved no such blessings. He helped me when I didn't deserve help. I cannot imagine what my life would be today without His grace. I try my hardest to afford this grace to those around me. I also try to teach my children the importance of God's grace and the importance of them passing this onto others, especially those who don't deserve it.
Today I struggled. My 14 year old son has been playing in a baseball tournament for two days with a team he's been playing with all summer. He's a good player, not the best but he gives 100% and he loves the game. The problem? He was never put onthe field during this tournament. Not one time in 4 games. They brought in older better boys to ensure they could win. Along with different kids, they also had a new coach who coaches at a higher level in our league. I understand the concept of playing to win, but there could have been the possibly of a tournament team and only choosing the ones this particular coach wanted. We live in a very rural town where your status and name could possibly play a role in such decisions. With some coaches, play time is not necessarily based upon ability, but who you know. My kidwas so excited for this tournament and it was discouraging to see him sit for hours anticipating playing even one inning. Unfortunately, I'm sure this is a struggle many parents deal with. My kid wasn't the only one that sat but he was the only one who was never once put on the field. During this time I couldn't help think about how much grace God has afforded to me, knowing full well I have to do the same for this coach. But it's difficult, very difficult when the protective mom kicks in. Life isn't fair, we all know that and I try to teach this to my kids. Apparently, today, I needed to be reminded of this also. I sat at that field the last few days wondering, do I step in? Do I just lift up a lot of prayers? How do I keep from getting angry??? How disappointed will my son be at the end of the day?? (He works hard, plays hard, never missed a game)
The last game for the night was done around 8 and we piled in the car to go home. I was exhausted, frustrated, and disappointed. I turned to him and asked him how he was feeling. And with a positive demeanor he said "It's okay mom. I got to bat 3 times today". He was disappointed that he wasn't put on the field but he never said a bad word about the new coach. He offered him grace that he probably didn't deserve, just as God has done for me many, many times. I honestly don't know if I would've done the same, or that I would go back to finish it out tomorrow. I know he was a bit discouraged but his positive attitude will bring him back to that tournament tomorrow to finish what he started. Even if it is just to sit the bench.
There's nothing better than a lesson in grace taught to you by your 14 year old son.
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."
The unmerited Grace of God is a wonderful thing, it is also a wonderful thing to see it worked out through our kids and how they behave toward others. You sound as if you have a wonderful son.
I agree with Bethy, you have a wonderful son who is not a quitter.
You know, as heart-breaking as it is, your son is being watched and people really do notice, even if they say nothing. Being faithful in "the little things" will and does have its reward. Maybe not today or maybe not tomorrow but it will.