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Making judgments without being judgmental is not a hard thing to do because
Making judgments without being judgmental is not a hard thing to do because the Bible, if we go by what it says makes it easy for us to make a judgment call. What I am finding quite difficult right now in my own experience though, is that sometimes because people know that I go to church and am serious about going by what the Bible says, that they seem to pull away, maybe not even like me for it, or think I'm giving them judgmental glances or judging them when I am not. I take a stand against sin and I know the difference between wrong and right because the Bible tells me the difference between the two. This doesn't mean I'm always looking down on others who may not think the same way I have a love for others as the Bible tells me to but it's kind of painful when you want someone to know you care, aren't looking down on them and want them to be themselves around you but they walk on eggshells around you because they know you stand upon the Word of God and have a strong moral center. I know what it is like to be judged, I've been there before and the Bible talks about not judging others which we will go over those verses but I guess the best thing to do is leave it in God's hands and pray that he somehow lets others know that we don't mean any ill will towards them just because we walk the Christian life. It's kind of a catch-22 for me because in a way it is good if people have that kind of respect for you and your faith that they are careful in how they act but for someone to pull away so much when you want to let them know you care about them and don't look down on them is kind of painful. Matthew Chapter 7:1-5 says Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. ƒ‚‚¬‚Å Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ƒ‚‚¬‚Å Let me take the speck out of your eye, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. There was a time when I was bad about this, I would pay attention to things other people did wrong and that they needed to change but didn't focus on the plank in my own eye, or the things that I struggled with that I needed to ask God to help me with. No one on this earth is perfect and we need to keep that in mind but we can't disregard what the Bible says just because someone feels uncomfortable around us. I want more than anything for people to feel comfortable around me and not think I'm judging them, because I'm not, I don't have any reason to be the judge of anyone, that is God's job not mine. We need to love our brother and sister and support them as much as we possibly can in any way we can and be welcoming and have encouraging spirits and not be discouragers. I just keep thinking about this and don't know if I'm being too hard on myself or if there's something I'm doing that needs changed so that people don't think they have to walk on eggshells around me. I know I'm not going to compromise what I believe either, I will go by what the Bible says as much as I possibly can but I'm not going to throw it out the window just because I think someone thinks I don't like them. But that's the part that bothers me: I don't dislike anyone, I actually love others now more than I ever have I guess that's why I'm struggling with it. Of course I've never wanted anyone not to like me, and I used to complain because I thought that people didn't, I'm over that I know those were all negative lies from Satan but you run into this when you want to have an effective witness for the cause of Christ I think where you want people to know you are a Christian, that you would pray, witness, do anything for them you could but sometimes when you live this life I think people misunderstand because there are or have been bad examples of people in church or Christians who do judge and look down on people when they shouldn't be doing that. I guess the part of it that really gets to me is that I'm not judgmental but people keep thinking that I'm looking down on them when in fact I'm not at all, I'm just standing upon God's promises and trying to be the best Christian that I can be. I've witnessed people who did judge and did have that wrong attitude and I don't ever want to be that way and am not that way but am saddened that people think that I am that way. God doesn't want us to be judgmental he wants us to reach out to one another and love each other. It is important we recognize what sin is and stay away from it and let people know where we stand but people have a hard enough time dealing with whatever they deal with, us judging them isn't going to do anything but harm. I guess prayer is the best thing to do in this situation because I know I've not done anything wrong yet I really feel like I have. God often intervenes in these situations, as I'm sure he will with me with this. I just felt it was real important to talk about this instead of letting it all fester inside and let it eat me up inside as I used to let things do. Know friends, whoever reads this that although I am a Christian and I strive to stay away from those things the Bible refers to as sin, that I don't go around judging and looking down on people all the time. I think maybe my quiet demeanor may make people think I am that way, when in fact I'm a very easy going person and the closer I've became to God I've just became more of that way and much less judgmental than I ever was before. I guess that's why I'm truly struggling with this so please pray for me in this matter that God will help me handle it the way He wants me to and that I don't get discouraged from it and may be able to encourage others. If you are going through anything like this, keep in mind we can make good judgment calls without being judgmental.

Published: Nov 24 2009 06:21:33pm

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Michael Riley (@christiangent)

I can understand your dilemma, and I also see from the Bible that unbelievers are not only apprehensive around born-again Christians due to some perceived fear of being judged, but their conscience will naturally convict them when any Christian is in their presence, since the unbeliever is following a different spirit, and a different Father. It's in the nature of unbelievers to fight, balk, argue claw and bite, against all perceived Truth, this Truth is the 'light of God', that they are wrong and God is right. The Holy Ghost according to John 16:8 is dealing with all unbelievers about their sin. Before a sinner ever attends Church, The Spirit works through the life and 'light' of believers to bring conviction. The unbeliever in most cases attends a Church service after he has come under conviction, this is due to the 'light' (Spirit of Truth) working inside of believers. In Eph 2:2 we see that the unbeliever is following a spirit of disobedience, and in John 8:44, Jesus made it very plain that unbelievers are doing the lust of their father the devil. All born-again Christians have been given and made 'light' by the Spirit of Truth who resides within them. John 1:4-9, Mat 5:14, 1 Thessalonians 5:5 Everyday when the 'light' (Christians) is in the presence of unbelievers, they will be dealt with by the Spirit of Truth who resides within us, they may never attend a Church service, but the Holy Ghost will preach to their conscience every time they are around a Christian. Especially if said Christian has been living a righteous life, for the unbeliever will read the pages of our behavior, that is contrary to their lifestyle. Jesus said that these type people, who willingly live in sin and rebellion to 'light', refuse to come to the light because their deeds are evil. John 3:20 It takes 'conviction' from God, before the unbeliever stops fighting against God to come to his senses. Be aware also, that there are many 'unseen' enemies of God who will constantly seek to attack, and bombard you with thoughts that you are at fault for being 'light', and therefore try to make you feel judgmental, for bringing 'conviction' to those God is trying to save. I've found in many cases, it's not so much any perceived perceptions that may lead one to misapprehend the thoughts of unbelievers, but the constant mind attacks of the enemy. (Wearing the Armor of God is a 24/7 obligation, as is to WATCH AND PRAY) Personally I feel one of the best things a believer can do, when he thinks unbelievers are getting convicted around him/her, is them the joy of the Lord, and that your Father the True and Living God is better than their father the Devil. The last thing a Christian should do is feel sorry that an unbeliever is under conviction! and worse yet, try and make them feel better. The 'feel better' comes when they 'repent' and give their hearts to God. I've learned by experience, that one problem that hinders the 'light' from thoroughly bringing men to conviction, is when some Christians quench the Spirit that is dealing with the conscience of unbelievers, by trying to make them feel better when God is clearly dealing with them. They will be convicted, look and feel sad, pitiful, angry, bitter, bad attitude, callous, around believers because God is at work, so whatever you do, don't quench the Spirit who is bringing the 'light' of Truth to their conscience. I may be wrong, but I think some perceptions about being 'judgmental' may be motivated by an unwarranted need of being to sentimental about how unbelievers perceive us. Sometimes the believer (I'm guilty of this) loses sight that they are ALWAYS in a spiritual war, this will surely be felt when we are around those that are still under the powers of darkness - just be careful one does not comprehend a feeling of being 'judgmental', as the Power of Christ working through them to destroy the powers of darkness. God Bless

Curtis Proffitt (@pointofview)

I just want to say, Ohioguy thanks for your openness concerning the subject, and Christiangent great follow up!

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