I see you

Excuse me?

Yes, you.

Hi, there.

Come sit with me for a minute.
I want you to know something.

I see you.

I see you avoiding eye contact. I see you with your head down, staring at your feet, sure that you have nothing to offer.

I see you with glazed eyes, red from tears, and a perpetual frown on your face.i see you struggling to make the “easiest” decisions.
I see you faking a smile and telling those around you that of course you’re OK. I see that you believe that they don’t truly care. I see that you believe they couldn’t help even if they did.

I see you.

And I know. 

I know your pain. Your sadness. Your emptiness. I know you feel like a burden and a loser and a failure.

I know you are tired, so very tired, of feeling this way. I know you are exhausted from facing this darkness day in and day out.

I know the prayers that you pray and the logic you try to understand and the hope that you are losing.
I know you are frustrated from trying over and over again to "get better" and “move on with your life.” I know you are completely spent from trying to be everyone for everybody while feeling like you are no one at all. I know that, right now, you can’t see past this very moment. I know you are questioning whether or not this is worth it at all.

I see you.

Because I am you. I have been you. And I may be you again.

I’m not going to lie and say that this is easy. It is anything but easy. But you are anything but weak.

I have faced demons for so many years, and there are times I have felt like giving up the fight. There are still times I feel like the biggest disappointment and the biggest burden in the lives of those I love. There are times that I, for the very life of me, cannot see a way out of the dark depths I face.

And then there are other times.

There are times when my illnesses have less of a hold on me, when my family cuddle me, and when I feel remotely “normal” for an hour or two at a time. There are times when I am absolutely the reason people smile or laugh and times when I am reminded that I am not so terrible at this thing called life.

I have been where you are. I may be there again. 

That is the sad nature of this beast.

But you are not alone in this mess. You are not a freak or a failure. You are not weak.
You are one of the strongest people in the world. But even the strongest people need others to see them, to support them. There are people who know your struggle, who won’t minimise it, who are going through it with you. 

Reach out to them.

You deserve more. You deserve better. Though you may not see yourself the way they see you, let them help you. I know you don’t believe it. But I do, and I see you. They do too.

I can’t promise that you will never feel such desperation again, but I can promise that you can get through this.

I know you. I see you. I am you. 

 Shani
  I have been a member of ChristianBlog.Com for 9 years, 27 days.

  I have published 92 blogs and 266 comments.

 I currently live in: Australia.
John Knox+

That was good - can I help carry some of your load by listening?

wmj

Beth+

Excellent on so many levels.

Les B+

Thank you Shani for sharing ... here to listen & do understand as in the same battle, though not your shoes. Praying and let me know if I can do more. Blessings in Christ.

K Reynolds+

I'm glad I caught up with you for a few moments and hopefully we will catch up again in just a little bit.

You wrote:

But you are not alone in this mess. You are not a freak or a failure. You are not weak.
You are one of the strongest people in the world. But even the strongest people need others to see them, to support them. There are people who know your struggle, who won t minimise it, who are going through it with you.

No, I haven't been there except for the tiny glimpse God gave me of this in March 2007. That was a "visit" I will never forget. :cry: Oh Shani-Girl! You and some others here at CB demonstrate 2 Corinthians 4 every day. Despite everything, you keep on running the race that is set before you... no matter what.

Nancy+

So very real to so many. Thank you.

joyce+

Normal? What's that ?

Seriously though, you are a fantastic writer and very very talented .

deepa+

Nice. His love is compassionate, understanding and never ending.