never far away
I still remember the first time I met Rory, ,it was grade 8 and my first day in High school. I sheepishly entered my Math Class not really wanting to be there.. I didnt know many people and there were no seats available except for the one next to Rory. I quietly sat down and put my stuff aside when Rory leaned across and introduced himself. I wasnt very good at meeting new people. I was abit shy but Rory was friendly, confident and not much seemed to phase him at the time.

for that whole year, i would always sit next to Rory. Besides the fact that Rory knew the answers to all math problems, big and small, he always gave great advice to lifes problems. Rorys laughter and smile were contaigous, no matter how crap a day i could have been having, a smile from Rory always seemed to make it better! I never heard Rory ever speak a bad word about someone, infact he spoke words of life. words of hope. words of wisdom. Id not met anyone like him before. I know this story may seem irrelevant but this is the part that changed my life.

At the start of this year Rory broke his leg which at the time was not hugely surprising as he had always been a bit accident prone. Hed fractured his thigh which led to the discovery of a tumour. Since i was living interstate, I remember the first time we skyped. He looked completely different. He went through Chemotherapy which took its toll on his body. Rory was a fighter, always had been, but he had to have his leg amputated a few months into chemo. This was huge news obviously as it would change his life forever and I cant say I dealt with it well. This is the first time Ive expressed how I feel because I tried not to think about it. I was in denial of this being a reality, and it was happening to one of the best people. I grew a little distant for a while and i didnt meant to. I was abit selfish and it was very hard for me to watch him go through this and I feel bad because I know he needed me. He finished Chemo a few weeks ago, and had been doing really well, he got his licence oh which i was super proud of him. But the Doctors had given him 12 months to live with treatment.

He started treatment again early last week and yesterday, Rorys body gave up. As i sit here in tears, i know Rory is not gone forever. I know he is safe and painfree in the arms of our Savior. Whilst i do miss him alot, i know that he is in a better place and should i need him, i know where to look.
Rorys last post on Facebook says

"I dont want to be scared or look back and wish Id done things differently. Life is so precious and so are the people in it, dont waste it, any of it. Dont be scared to do the things you want to do, they cant wait. we can only make the most of the life we have, as long as Im here I intend to do just that. Live my life as I know how to live it."

i think this is something we all need to take on board.
Rest in peace Rory.
20/09/1991 - 22/12/2010
 Shani
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K Reynolds+

Oh Shani! :cry:

Shani... first of all I just want to tell you, Rory understood what you were feeling. Those of us who have gone through chemo... we do understand how hard it is for those who care about us to see what it does to us. To tell you the truth, that is the most painful part of chemo... the pain it brings to those we love. We see the sadness and pain in your eyes... even as you love us and try to make us smile. We know that the sadness and pain is there simply because... you love us so much and are hurting for us. He knew that, Shani...

I read the words your precious friend wrote. I don't want to be scared or look back and wish I'd done things differently. Life is so precious and so are the people in it, don't waste it, any of it. Don't be scared to do the things you want to do, they cant wait. we can only make the most of the life we have, as long as I'm here I intend to do just that. Live my life as I know how to live it.

Amen, Rory, amen!

I will be praying for Rory's family and friends...

K :princess:

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I'm sorry hear about Rory, he's now with the Lord though its sad to our part to lose our love ones. i pray that God gives you strength and to his family as well, to overcome the sadness and turn it into joy.

blessings to sister shani.:)

Tan Yeowhwa+

Sister Shani, sorry to hear of the loss of a good friend, someone you will remember well for life. It must be a great loss to his family , especially his parents.

Yes, help people when they are alive, help them when we are alive too, for life's fragile.:confused: Be comforted that one day, we will all meet each other in that glorious Land. Be comforted by the memories of his life, let the grieving for him be a driving force to live our life better and to help others better.:heart::flower::heart:

Thanks for sharing

Blessings always

From Hwa Silverpen