I have a bad habit when I am driving to daydream. I make up things in my head that I wish would happen. I get long stories and events and they can play out for hours. One nights I couldn't sleep I would do this and I would have all these fantacies that could go on for days. I never really looked at it as sin until I truly set my heart on God and saw how much time I was wasting. Then a friend of mine texted me the other day ans she was saying how she feels like she lives in a false reality. She chooses not to see what is really going on but instead daydreams the realities that she wishes to have. I told her how I used to and still do sometimes do this. She said something about it just didnt seem right to her and I got thinking about it. When I daydream I dream about a reality I wish to have, not the one God has given me. So in a sense I think that what I have in mind is better then what God has given me. I think what he has given isn't enough, His plan isnt the rright way. I know better. Or do I? We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28 I have lived long enough to see how God uses everything in our life for our own good. We go through pains and troubles and fires, but it grows us. It doesn't tear us down, it makes us stronger in Him. So why do I daydream when I know God's way is the best way? Because I don't want to go through the pains and troubles that it may cause. My daydreams don't change anything either, they just are a waste of time. But then, as me and my friend were texting back and forth, I was like, Is it wrong though? Can it really be a sin just to dream of things you want to happen? But I think I just answered my question above. I would love to have your thoughts on the subject! Be Blessed!
Sorry goldie, excuse me a moment while I go and teach alight to show some respect.!!
Ok, back now:wink: Where was I., Oh yes, daydreaming, i was lost in my own thoughts there for a moment.
I think when the dreams in your head move down into your heart and start to consume you, thats when one really needs to worry.
But I guess it is another distraction from God, but we are human hon, it doesn't take a lot to distract us.
Now where was I .... :wink:
You're question falls into one of those areas that is not simple...not black and white. We all want simple answers, don't we. We all would like to be able to look at any situation and instantly know the answer. And, while there are a few situations or examples within life that are clear, most are not. Life is full of ambiguities and shades of gray. What may be a sin for me may not be a sin for you and vice versa. Take your question on day dreaming as an example:
Day dreaming in and of itself is amoral - neither right or wrong. But how we submit to it, or how we use it may be a sin if it goes too far. For example, I might day dream about some flowers I'd like to plant when spring arrives. Nothing wrong about that unless I let it become and obsessive focus, distracting me from my family and my Lord. Of course, in your example of day dreaming while driving, I would add that we all think about other things when we drive. None of us can keep our mind totally focused on the road. But we do need to keep it a priority not only for our safety but for the safety of others, as well.
If you are sensing that you day dream too much, take it to the Lord in prayer. As you place him first in your life, he'll lead you in the way you should go. Also, it may be that for a season you day dream about a specific thought, which might be wrong. But that doesn't mean all day dreaming is wrong...just the specific issue you've allowed to take priority.
Day dreaming can be a mental method by which we evaluate issues or problems. It can be a catalyst to spur us to action. I begin a short story or novel by day dreaming about it. As it builds in my mind, more detail takes shape until I come to the place that I actually begin to write. In that sense, day dreaming can be and is a blessing from God.
It may help to read 1 Corinthians, Chapter 8. That's the chapter where Paul talks about the eating of meat from animals that had been sacrificed to pagan gods. Read it a couple of times and then try to relate and apply the principles Paul was making to other areas of your life...such as day dreaming.
Confession time Goldie?!?!
hehe, i so understand what you are talking about. If I don't have someone to talk to or do something for, my mind comes up with stories. Not that these stories are what I want or need in my life, they are just there - its my stress relief at times. I can sew for hours and live out an entire lifetime in my thoughts. I have always been like this, and my youngest son is the same way only you can hear him playing it out. I have written so many of these stories down and maybe one day they will be read by someone. I am not usually the "main character" in my story, I'm by-stander, wall flower, fly on the wall, director of the story - but yes, sometimes its about me, and I am still a good little Christian girl in them :wink:.
I no longer feel bad about it, sometimes I learn stuff from them, sometimes I have to struggle to come back to reality, but Jesus is and always will be my Lord and Savior (even within the stories in my head).
Don't feel bad about it. Do what I do and write them down - who knows, you might be famous for them.
What a blog for me to read at the prefect time!
I am a student, currently studying in one of the univercity in Auckland, New Zealand. I have been looking for part time jobs in the past 2-3 weeks. And when I do something, I will think about the feedback,achievements...etc. I have been looking for jobs and I couldn't get any! I am so depressed and frustrated now!
My earthly dad has been warning me not to work so that I can conc. on my studies. But the purpose of me finding a job is because i wanna go for conferences and I wanna pay it by myself. I wanna try to be independent and try to handle things on my own so that it won't be too tough for me to be an adult when I grown up!
But your blog has inspired me. Sometimes, I doubt about God.(Esp these few days) Cuz it is written in the bible that whoever believes that he will get it, get it. The bible also says " If God is for you, who can be against you"? SOmetimes, the negative thinking just "push" me further than God. I am very sad about that...
Goldie, do u have any experience bout not achieving things that you had tried to achieve?? I would like to heard some from you...
I have had many experiences about not achieving things that I have tried to achieve in the first place. The only way I can get over it is to realize that God took it and is using it to show me something and to grow me. He takes all my mistakes and uses them for His glory and my own good even if I can't see it in the first place.
I have told myself many times before that I am going to stop day dreaming, and set my mind on God every time I want to day dream. I have failed miserably at times. But after each time, I repent and turn to the loving Father and see something I haven't before.
Don't lose faith dear sister, I see such a wonderful daughter of the King in you. Be strong in His Word. I will be praying for you and anytime you need me send me a message!
Love in the Father,
Hey, Goldie, et al,
One of my favorite sayings, and I cannot remember where I first heard it, is:
"The greatest talent of the human mind is the ability to fool itself."
I am going to do some research on certain aspects of that statement and write a blog about it soon. In the meantime, give it some thought. It's a very interesting concept.
I really liked Michael's (mkmills) comment here. Daydreaming is a form of creative thinking, and can be used for good or ill, like almost everything in life.
Another favorite saying I have is:
"Ninety-nine percent of our life is in our minds...maybe more." Think about this for a moment. Most of your life is a memory of the past. Almost all the balance is a dream or hope for the future. Those two things exist in your mind. The only thing you have left is the split-second we call "now." Yet now is so very important, because what you do "now" in this exact nano-second, will turn into those memories that will never be changed. Memories affect us in so many ways. Also what you do in this precise "now" will determine, to a great extent, your future.
Almost all your life either being a memory or a dream, and all that exists in your mind, isn't is amazing that the most powerful moment you have is this one here...no, here....here!
My point is that our mind is where we live. Nothing that happens to us is as important as how we view it in our own minds, because there is where our actions and reactions begin. If you can daydream something good and then make that good thing happen because of it, that's wonderful.
Oh...yeah, I'd try to keep daydream time to when you are NOT driving. hehe
Wow. This has given me a whole new perspective on how I've been living my life. Like you I used to day dream for days at a time, and I never realized that it could be wrong. I'm sorry I really don't know the answer to your question:(
I just want you to know that you have a really good point, and you've definitely given me something to think about.